{"id":29304,"date":"2020-06-28T13:05:53","date_gmt":"2020-06-28T07:35:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mindfulsciencecentre.com\/?p=11283"},"modified":"2020-06-28T13:05:53","modified_gmt":"2020-06-28T07:35:53","slug":"mindful-fatherhood-in-modern-times","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/c4efilms.com\/msc\/mindful-fatherhood-in-modern-times\/","title":{"rendered":"Mindful Fatherhood in Modern Times"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"29304\" class=\"elementor elementor-29304\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-2cc29c6f elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"2cc29c6f\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-5fb9d5d1\" data-id=\"5fb9d5d1\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2a4d6869 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2a4d6869\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h1 class=\"articleHeader__title--1OFB2\"><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Mindful Fatherhood in Modern Times<\/span><\/h1>\n<h4>How mindfulness can help in effective parenting.<\/h4>\n<p><em><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">By\u00a0<span class=\"byline__wrapper--3vOJH\"><a class=\"byline__name--2MpUW typography__tealLink--1F-O5\" href=\"https:\/\/thriveglobal.in\/authors\/manish-behl\/\">Manish Behl<\/a><span class=\"byline__title--3Gvbe\">,\u00a0E.I. Coach &amp; Conscious Thinker\u00a0at\u00a0Mindfulness India Summit and Mindful Science Centre<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Relationship with one\u2019s mother is one of the most important relationships in one\u2019s life. It\u2019s nourishing, noble and wonderful. On the other hand, the father\u2018s role in the family is equally important and irreplaceable.<\/p>\n<div class=\"pos_rel clearfix\">\n<div class=\"data\">\n<div id=\"articleText\">\n<div class=\"articleBody__content--1Cv9L rich-text\">\n<p>Fathers play a meaningful role in a child\u2019s development as they provide a distinctive blend of firm yet loving approach to parenting. Many fathers encounter a lot of complexities in our culture that makes mindful parenting a bit difficult. Conventionally, fathers are expected to be the breadwinners for the family, behave rock solid to shield the family from all kinds of problems without showing any sign of weakness.\u00a0 At the same time, fathers are expected to be kind, loving and take part in the upbringing of children\u2019s social and emotional needs.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>I remember the story of a young man who told me, <strong><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">\u201cMy father was always too busy in providing food and safety for our family that he missed to spend quality time with us kids.\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>He told me of the affection and quality time he missed with his father as his father would travel to different cities every week as a salesperson. On weekends, when his father was home, he would only see him sleeping and whenever he tried to get close to him, his father would tell him that he was tired and had no energy to spend time with him. Today, they don\u2019t enjoy a close relationship with each other.<\/p>\n<p>I see this as a very common problem with an increasing number of fathers constantly travelling for work, having external stressors and numerous competing responsibilities making it very difficult for them to be involved with parenting.<\/p>\n<h3><strong><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Mindful fathering<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>The world around us is getting more and more challenging, coupled with growing distractions, psychological issues, work and relations related stress which easily blows our attention away from the present moment. This in turn means that we become less mindful towards people we love, especially our kids and family.<\/p>\n<p>Mindfulness, an important skill, can help you to stay in the present moment, pay attention to your feelings, thoughts and behaviours and others in turn creating loving and joyous relationships with children and family.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>A mindful relationship between father and child is extremely important for the child\u2019s skills development in domains such as:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<span style=\"color: #dc5163;\"><li><strong>Physical Skills<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Survival Skills<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Social Emotional Skills<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Critical Thinking Skills<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Empathy and Compassion Skills<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><strong><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">How to embrace mindful parenting responsibilities<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Fathers are increasingly realising the need to strengthen their bond with their kids which is possible by spending more mindful and meaningful time with them. Here are some ways that fathers can learn to cultivate changes in themselves in order to be more present and available in their time with their kids:<\/p>\n<p>1. \u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<strong><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Paying Attention to every moment:\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Today our world is filled with distractions at every turn, paying attention can be challenging. Emotional awareness and paying attention to each and every moment can be a golden key to become a mindful father. My first suggestion would be to start with simply being with your child and pay attention to whatever he or she is doing, without trying to change anything. Just pay attention using all your senses, environment and observe your and your child\u2019s emotions. Pay attention to how you feel on the inside out and just be present at the very moment.<\/p>\n<p>2.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<strong><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Acceptance with Openness<\/span><\/strong>: The greatest gift we possibly can give our children is our undivided presence with full acceptance. Accepting whoever they are and whatever they bring, with just an open-minded approach in supporting the child. We all know it is easier to be open and accepting during fun times together but it\u2019s much more challenging when there is a feeling of anger, frustration or struggle in a relationship.\u00a0 This is exactly when your children need your openness and acceptance.<\/p>\n<p>Remember you don\u2019t always have to change or fix things.\u00a0 Observe your impulse, don\u2019t just rush to give judgement or to find solutions to every situation, just be open and accepting. This will also help disconnect from prejudged, unrealistic expectations and open avenues to explore newer attributes of both children and parent\u2019s emotional and cognitive abilities.<\/p>\n<p>3.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<strong><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Encourage mindful listening:\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Research shows when fathers\/ parents relate to their children with mindfulness, they activate a very specific part in their brain which allows judgement and cautious impulses to slow down, be more relaxed, receptive and more present to their kid\u2019s necessities and challenges. Listening with full attention is an art, it is particularly important when children are growing up. When you listen mindfully you are open and accepting which promotes healthy conversation and thus better relationships. During adolescent years, it becomes challenging to physically monitor their behaviour, parents have to rely upon verbal conversations and intuitive clues.<\/p>\n<p>Mindful listening allows to be calm and open which helps in perceiving children\u2019s thoughts and feelings more correctly. This behaviour in turn, helps in reducing misunderstanding and disagreement and promotes self-submission and disclosure by your child.<\/p>\n<p>4.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<strong><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Step away from digital distraction:\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Today parents seem to be feeling the pressure when it comes to balancing their own and their children\u2019s screen time. Problem is that we have endless distractions, especially when it comes to our smartphones and social media. We are so consumed by these screens that we practically miss to observe our environment, behaviour and precious moments with our children.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0The problem starts when many parents find it easy to give digital devices to children as a pacifier. Though this looks convenient in the beginning, but these parents unknowingly cultivate a poor habit for themselves and their children. In the long run, this becomes a problem for both children as well as parents as it forms a permanent habit.<\/p>\n<p>Digital well-being is a new field of mindfulness inquiry and practice that integrates important constituents of mindful relationship with our digital devices and communications. Few micro practises which I suggest in my workshops that you can try are:<\/p>\n<p><strong>1.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Unplug time:\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Fix a time in a day to have time out from gadgets.<\/p>\n<p><strong>2.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Mindful listening game:\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>One person talks and another person listen\u2019s mindfully.<\/p>\n<p><strong>3.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Enjoying digital detox before bed:\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Keep some time before bed ( maybe 20 minutes) to chat and detox with your child.<\/p>\n<p><strong>4.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Disconnect every week:\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>A weekly unplug routine both for parents and children.<\/p>\n<p><strong>5.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">No gadget zone:\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Create a no gadget zone in house.<\/p>\n<p><strong>6.\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Place for mindfulness:\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Make a place in house where you can do daily mindfulness or meditation practise.<\/p>\n<p>All these practises of listening with full attention, non-judgmental attitude, acceptance, emotional awareness, self-regulation and compassion brings well-being for self, families and children in holistic ways.<\/p>\n<h3><strong><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Make your Father\u2019s Day an amazing experience\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>On this Father\u2019s Day, all kids should also try to remember to do following:<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Be open\u2026<\/span><\/strong>\u00a0to the generation gap and respect father\u2019s guidance as he teaches you with his real life experiences.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Mind your language\u2026\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>when you speak to him, talk with respect and don\u2019t talk back.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Be the best child that you can be:\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>You cannot replace your parents, do not replace them with your friends. Whatever you may have gone through in your childhood, try to make your parents\u2019 old age the best.\u00a0 So be the best child that you can be\u00a0 and make them proud of you.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Be thankful:\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>Remember as human beings we are not perfect, neither are parents nor are children. Be thankful for your parents\u2019 love and sacrifices for you. They deserve to be loved and respected. Pay your deepest gratitude for all their hardship and sacrifices they have done for you, which you can never repay.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Be appreciative\u2026\u00a0<\/span><\/strong>of all his efforts in becoming a good father.<\/p>\n<p>To celebrate Father\u2019s Day this year, try doing a simple mindful listening or mindful observing practise as a family. Have fun by asking for old stories or connect with old memories and mindfully enjoy each and every moment, this would be the greatest gift to your father on this day.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-4e609dc elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4e609dc\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-2ce7661\" data-id=\"2ce7661\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d2d9036 elementor-widget elementor-widget-testimonial\" data-id=\"d2d9036\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"testimonial.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-testimonial-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-testimonial-content\">\"To celebrate Father\u2019s Day this year, try doing a simple mindful listening or mindful observing practise as a family. Have fun by asking for old stories or connect with old memories and mindfully enjoy each and every moment, this would be the greatest gift to your father on this day \"<\/div>\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-testimonial-meta elementor-has-image elementor-testimonial-image-position-aside\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-testimonial-meta-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-testimonial-image\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/thriveglobal.in\/stories\/mindful-fatherhood-in-modern-times\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" src=\"https:\/\/c4efilms.com\/msc\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/Manish-Behl-Profile-Round-Pic-1.png\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-10024\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/c4efilms.com\/msc\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/Manish-Behl-Profile-Round-Pic-1.png 150w, https:\/\/c4efilms.com\/msc\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/Manish-Behl-Profile-Round-Pic-1-100x100.png 100w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 150px) 100vw, 150px\" \/><\/a>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-testimonial-details\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-testimonial-name\" href=\"https:\/\/thriveglobal.in\/stories\/mindful-fatherhood-in-modern-times\/\">Manish Behl<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-testimonial-job\" href=\"https:\/\/thriveglobal.in\/stories\/mindful-fatherhood-in-modern-times\/\">Mindfulness Expet<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-a575e4e elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"a575e4e\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-ecd009d\" data-id=\"ecd009d\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d72a911 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d72a911\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<pre><a href=\"https:\/\/thriveglobal.in\/stories\/mindful-fatherhood-in-modern-times\/\">Original Article is Published on Thrive Global on 22nd May 2020<\/a><\/pre>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-65b1386 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"65b1386\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8812ff8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8812ff8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"pos_rel clearfix\">\n<div class=\"data\">\n<div id=\"articleText\">\n<p><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\">Author Manish Behl is India\u2019s leading Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence expert, a TEDx speaker, and Founder of the Mindful Science Centre (MSC) and the <\/span><strong style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.mindfulnessindiasummit.com\/\">Mindfulness India Summit &#8211; Asia\u2019s largest summit<\/a><\/strong><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"> on Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence backed by Neuroscience. He offers practical strategies for leadership transformation, increase performance, transform anxiety and negativity into calm and focus. He has over 25 year of leadership experience and his workshops facilitate physical and mental wellbeing and cultivate inner peace.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #dc5163;\">Mindfulness based Training and Coaching<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><strong>Mindful Science Centre<\/strong> is mindfulness and emotional intelligence based\u00a0 training and learning centre providing leadership and performance solutions for corporates and organizations. Mindful Science Centre applies practices based on self-awareness and social emotional intelligence that cultivate leadership qualities such as attention, resilience, focus, empathy, compassion, communication and clarity. Well-designed Mindfulness training programs and one-on-one coaching sessions support individuals and organizations to develop a positive outlook, decision-making, agility, creativity, concentration, sustainability, mental and physical well-being through mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence practices.<\/p>\n<p>Contact Mindful Science Centre to learn more about how to become Successful leader Web:\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.mindfulsciencecentre.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">www.mindfulsciencecentre.com<\/a>. Mail:\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/info@beyondmind.in\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener noreferrer\">info@mindfulsciencecentre.com<\/a><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-2a06b5c elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"2a06b5c\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-55542c2 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"55542c2\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-099bb69\" data-id=\"099bb69\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Mindful Fatherhood in Modern Times How mindfulness can help in effective parenting. By\u00a0Manish Behl,\u00a0E.I. Coach &amp; Conscious Thinker\u00a0at\u00a0Mindfulness India Summit and Mindful Science Centre Relationship with one\u2019s mother is one of the most important relationships in one\u2019s life. It\u2019s nourishing, noble and wonderful. 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